Every time I talk to my mom, she always mentions “be more feminine, get dolled up.” She loves makeup, but she doesn’t know how to apply it and as such, I never learned how to apply it and quite frankly, I’m not very good at it and most makeup gives me a sensory issue. The whole primer, liquid foundation, concealer, contour, more primer, all the colors, liner, mascara, lip gloss, it makes me feel like I’m wearing 3 days worth of dirt and sweat. I’ve tried multiple times with different brands and even makeup artists, looking up the “It feels like nothing” or “It so light!” reviews….I still feel it.
The best I’ve managed to do is powder foundation, eye shadow, blush, a very specific liner, recently highlighter and typically matte ELF lipstick. Even with the powder foundation I have to go very light, or use it as a concealer in only certain areas and blend it out. It’s gotten to the point its part of my anxiety, I know I could look better with a touch more, but the discomfort makes it feel like someone put a large sticker on my face or wet plastic film.
On top of that it never helps when I look up articles about makeup and varying different opinions on makeup such as:
- It doesn’t matter, most men can’t even tell.
- If she wears make up, she’s lying.
- If she wears make up, she takes care of herself.
- If she doesn’t wear make up, she looks sick and probably doesn’t take care of herself.
- Make people feel more beautiful and confident.
- Makes people feel like they play a role they need to play.
- Enhances one’s natural looks.
And I can’t be the only person in the world who feels like any eye makeup makes me feel really sleepy after a while. What gives? Am I just weird? If I put on more than 1 layer of shadow, within 2 hours, I just wanna sleep, like my eyes are tired.
I love the look of lip gloss, but it feels like I just slathered ooze tube candy all over my face, and I just wanna lick it off, and how do you drink anything with it on?
And I’m so color stupid that I can’t tell if one shade is warmer or cooler because all I can tell is its a different color and that’s all I can see, I don’t see how anyone can be like “This has more blue, this has more red, this has more yellow.” What are you talking about??? All I know are that my veins are blue, purple and sometimes green. The same blush on my cheeks makes me look feverish but on my eyes it makes me look cute, so IDK.
At least I got the Korean blended lip down. That’s the only advancement I’ve managed in the last 10 years. I will probably never touch contour again because none of the tutorials make sense, you get people doing thin lines, and the you got people who are painting their whole faces, what is happening?
I really wished I had the money, time, patience and not the sensory overload to use makeup, then I would maybe feel more willing to do cosplay.
My only compromise is watching and following guy makeup tutorials, because for the majority its light, compared to women’s light makeup…which isn’t light to me.
At the end of the day I prefer to just put on barely there eye liner and a lipstick if I feel like it that day, but even then I’ve had people like “You should put on MORE” and its just like,
- I want to.
- I can’t because I will mentally overload.
- I dont know how.
- I will mentally overload
- My imposter syndrome will maxed out.
- Do I really look bad or dull?
IDK
I have the same envy for makeup as the envy I have for people who manage to do make stunning watercolor art. You put color down and it somehow works.
ramble over.